T is for Treat – Trick or Treat!

Halloween is a fun time of year full of spooky festivities, but it’s easy to get caught up in the craze of trick-or-treating. However, this year, shift your focus from the external treats of the season and redirect your attention to something equally important: treating yourself with kindness.

You might often find yourself tricking your mind into believing that you are incapable or deserving of certain things. You might put yourself down, criticise your flaws, and underestimate your potential. But it’s time to break free from this cycle and embrace the idea of treating yourself kindly.


So, how do I treat myself kindly?

Here are five things you can do to treat yourself more kindly throughout your life.


1. The Power of Positive Self-Talk

One of the simplest yet most effective ways to treat yourself kindly is through positive self-talk. The words you use when addressing your mind have a profound impact on your self-perception. Instead of filling your thoughts with self-doubt and negativity, replace them with words of affirmation and encouragement, like ‘I can do this!’, ‘I am good enough, ‘I can achieve anything I put my mind to it’.

By embracing positive self-talk, you can change your mindset and build resilience. Treat yourself to a daily dose of empowering statements. Remind yourself of your strengths, acknowledge your accomplishments, and believe in your ability to tackle any challenges that come your way.


2. Banish the Trick of Comparison

Comparison is often the trickiest of tricks, luring us into a never-ending cycle of self-doubt and discontent. With the rise of social media, it has become increasingly difficult to avoid comparing ourselves to others. But remember, everyone’s journey is unique, and there is no one-size-fits-all measure of success.

Instead of falling into the trap of comparison, treat yourself to the joy of self-acceptance. Recognise your own progress and growth, appreciating the path you have taken. Celebrate your individuality and the strengths that make you who you are. Remember, you are incomparable, which is something to be proud of.


3. Invest in Self-Care

Treats come in many forms, and self-care is one of the most important treats you can give yourself. Life can get busy, so it’s easy to neglect your own well-being, and other tasks seem more important. However, prioritising self-care is crucial to maintaining a balanced and fulfilling life, so you need to put yourself first.

Self-care can take various shapes and forms, depending on what brings you joy and relaxation. It can be as simple as indulging in a hot bath, leisurely walking in nature, or spending quality time with loved ones. Think about what activities make you happy, and that will rejuvenate your mind, body, and spirit. It’s time to treat yourself to the gift of self-nurturing.


4. Embracing New Challenges

Often, we trick ourselves into thinking we cannot achieve something before we even attempt it. This self-imposed limitation can hold you back from reaching your full potential. Instead of fearing failure or rejection. Treat yourself to the thrill of stepping outside your comfort zone and embracing new challenges.

Each new challenge presents an opportunity for growth and self-discovery. Take baby steps towards your goals, set realistic expectations, and make sure to celebrate each milestone along the way. Treat yourself with kindness and patience as you navigate through unfamiliar territory, remembering that the journey is just as important as the destination.


5. The Trick of Gratitude

In the pursuit of self-improvement, appreciating what we already have is often forgotten. Gratitude is a powerful tool that can transform your perspective and allow you to find joy in the simplest of things. Rather than tricking yourself into focusing on what is lacking, treat yourself to the magic of gratitude.

Take a moment each day to reflect on the things you are grateful for. It can be as small as a warm cup of tea on a chilly evening or as significant as the support of loved ones. By cultivating a grateful mindset, you shift your focus from what you lack to what you have, creating a foundation of contentment and appreciation.


This Halloween season let’s redefine the idea of trick or treat. Instead of solely seeking external treats, prioritise treating yourself with kindness, compassion, and self-acceptance. Break free from the tricks of self-doubt and comparison, and embrace the treats of positive self-talk, self-care, and gratitude.

Remember, you have the power to treat yourself kindly every day. Embrace the power within you, and watch as your self-confidence, resilience, and overall well-being soar to new heights. Treat yourself with the love and respect you deserve!

To find out more on this topic…

Listen to our ‘T for Treat – Trick or Treat’ podcast episode

Z to A of Life Skills Podcast with Mark and Jules Kennedy.

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